Brent Chamberlain Missing

Brent Chamberlain went missing February 28th, 2019. 


Brent Chamberlain around 2018

Standing Requests

You can help us find Brent by doing 3 things:

  1. Contact me at jer(dot)clifton(at)gmail(dot)com if you know anything about Brent, his whereabouts, or how he might be contacted.
  2. Share this page with others, especially any friends in Europe, particularly Italy, France, and the United Kingdom.
  3. Leave positive messages for Brent on this page. (This blog, such as it is, is the only way I know to communicate with him, if alive. I know many have posted on Facebook but he is unlikely to see any facebook comments.)

11 responses to “Brent Chamberlain Missing

  • Alexa Marino

    Dear Brent,

    I think about you often around this time of year. I remember that night after chamber choir rehearsal that some of us went to your apartment and helped to decorate your tree. It’s one of my most favorite memories. I wish we could go back to that night and live there for a while. I remember when we all burst out into one of our Christmas concert songs and the room was filled with your beautiful voice. It was a beautiful, light, happy night.

    I miss you. I hope that you see this in some way from where-ever you are.

    Love, Alexa

    • Alistair Hamilton

      Such happy memories with Brent. I was thinking of Brent today as a post-rehearsal photo popped up on my phone. Such a great time. Singing Christmas songs in his apartment was hilarious.

      It is always ok to reach out – nothing matters other than the knowledge that you are safe.

      Big hug x

  • Bonnie Crawford

    Dear Brent , missing you tremendously. Please contact someone .. Nothing is impossible with a grain of mustard seed of faith as you once wrote. You becoming a parent at age 12 was as we talked was not fair. Not being believed about the chaos and pain. Not fair Christmas has come and gone the deep hurt is like the Grand Canyon seek true people salt and sugar looks the same remeber be wise as you always have neen. Avoid toxic people. Please reach out love mom 4806198338 you are loved with an everlasting look to God not to people. He heals He restores He makes us whole Psalms 51 as white as snow

  • Jennifer Neroni-Trupo

    Dear Brenton,

    I think of you often! Always praying you are well! I hope wherever you are, you had a wonderful Thanksgiving, free of judgment and fear and full of the knowledge that you are loved! Be blessed, my friend.

    Loving and missing you always!
    ~Jenneroni 😘❤

  • Lindsay (Davis) Halse

    Hi Brent, I’m thinking of you today and praying that you know how deeply loved you are.
    I surely love you, my sweet friend! ❤️

  • Alistair Hamilton

    I had nearly daily contact with Brent since September ‘18 when he auditioned and joined my choir. He helped lead a youth retreat, sang with the adults, was a vibrant member of our community, and served on the board.

    Brent and I went on a trip to NH together and had many good times. Brent hosted Thanksgiving for me and my sister (who flew in from the UK) and we always enjoyed several happy memories. We celebrated his birthday in my NY apartment in March with nice whisky and I flew to Shanghai the next morning for a music festival. He text me at 4am the next morning to wish me a safe flight – that was our last contact. I found it strange that he insisted that I hold onto the whisky that I had bought him for his birthday.

    It breaks my heart and I am very upset about everything. I trust that Brent, if alive, has the confidence to reach out. You can rebuild and move on from this, and the many people that care for you are here. Come home, reach out 😊

  • Stephanie

    Brent, your spirit is FAR TOO BEAUTIFUL for the world to lose you like this. Memories of you, your bright smile, your wonderful laugh always make me smile. I miss our Houghton years. Many many songs, late night raw cookie dough, you borrowing my red striped pants, introducing me to the truck stop, bringing your joy wherever you go… You will always have open arms and a place to stay in Buffalo ❤ *Spiff

  • Anna B

    Brent, I hope you pull up Jer’s site and see this. I hope you know how many people you have touched and how many people genuinely love you. While I have not done well at keeping in touch with you, I am one of those people. There are few people I think of that always, without fail, bring a smile to my face. You are one of those people. I think of many nights hanging out with everyone in a basement apartment that you made seem like a home for all of your Houghton friends. I mean, who knew IKEA was so wonderful and that you could hide a water heater with curtains?! I think of you every time I leave butter out to be room temperature so that it is spreadable, and every time I hear Norah Jones. I also think of how I’ve not been a good friend in keeping up with you since then, and hope you forgive me for that. Brent, please know that you are loved. No matter where you are, no matter the situation. You are missed, you are loved, you will always be welcome.

  • Nicole Tascarella


    I don’t even know where to start without my heart breaking at the memories that flood my mind at just the thought of your name. When I think about Houghton I always think about you. I went there not knowing a single soul and your bright warm smile was one of the first to greet me. I enjoyed being able to talk to you and see such a depth of kindness, love and intelligence that just radiated from inside you. I admired your quiet strength and courage that I never possessed. I have since thought about your over the years wondering what lives you were continuing to touch and encourage. I wish I would have reached out to catch up or to visit. I wish I could see you and give you a hug. There are many things I wish, and one of them is to hear that you are safe and healthy. I hope that your see this and the many other letters and know that you are loved and missed. Please come back and know that you will be welcomed with an embrace without fear or judgment. I miss you, my friend and I pray you know how much I and those here love you!

    Peace be with you,
    Nicole Tascarella

  • musicologuevoyageuse

    Dear Brent,

    I will always remember you as a force of positive energy and compassion. If you are out there reading this, please know that I’m one of the many who longs for you to find a way back to your friends and those who love you.

    Virginia Whealton

  • Jer

    Brent, here are people’s comments on the original post that I have moved over to this page:

    “Hey man,
    Richard texted me on Friday about this and ever since then, I’ve been heartbroken. I love you. You’ve been one of the most influential and inspirational people I’ve ever known. I haven’t seen you since the MoMA like ten years ago, but since then I’ve said “Brent Chamberlain” almost ever week during liturgy when we pray for people because you’re an impossible dude to forget. I want you to be safe and healthy and know how deeply cared for you are. If you’re out there, please reach the hell out dude. Until then, I’m going to join with hundreds of people yelling into the darkness that we love you, Brent.” – Jeff Babjtis

    “Brent i know you probably somewhere out there in the world but i want you too know that i love you and you was my favorite teacher and always will be i miss you today my birthday and im gonna use my birthday wish too wish that you come back safe and sound 💯💔😢
    Love Brandon Santana”

    “Brent, I don’t know if you even remember me. Just someone you met several years ago who instantly admired you and looked up to you. I hope with all that I have that you’re doing okay, and that you’re safe. You’re a wonderful man, and one of the most thoughtful, kind, and decent people I know. Much love, your English friend.” – Danny H.

    “Thanks, Jer. Brent, you are a beautiful person to me.” – Alex L.

    “Hi Jer, thank you for sharing this. I’m so shocked and sad. The last time I saw Brent was when I ran into him on the street the day after the 2016 election. We commiserated for a moment, then were off to our respective engagements. I’m so sad to hear that things got worse for him. I will be holding onto hope.” – Matthias

    “Brent: As you can see there are many people, including me, who care deeply about you and are distressed that you have not been in touch. I pray that you are well and that you will let someone know how you are doing. No one needs or is entitled to an explanation, but we would like an affirmation that you are doing alright.” – John Brittain

    “Dear Brent,
    I just saw Jer’s Blog about you—I’m in shock and deeply concerned about you. So many beautiful memories from your time at Houghton during my first years there as a faculty member: you are one of my bright spots. Even at this moment, I can clearly see us riding together as you drove the group to a concert; they’re all chatting away and laughing, and you and I are in the front and discovering all sorts of connections that we never knew we had until that moment. Brent—you are one of the most amazing people I know, so gifted in more ways than I can express in writing. Please come back to us all—it’s just a little less bright at the moment not knowing where you are or being able to connect with you (even if only virtually). I agree with Jer: you must come back; and when you do, I want to see you face to face—not just through social media or an email. I want to experience again the joy, love, uniqueness and blessing that is Brent Chamberlain in the flesh.
    Love you,
    Sharon Johnson”

    “Hi Brent,
    You most likely don’t remember me, but you were a senior at Houghton when I transferred in as a sophomore. I don’t remember exactly how we met, whether it was because you guided one of the tours or worked the info desk or something, but what I do remember is how our brief daily chats helped me settle into campus life. I struggled, being a foreigner and a mature student, and you were always kind & funny and I always looked forward to seeing your friendly face. You helped me to feel wanted and seen and important.

    I, too, have struggled and lived in those dark places, when it feels like you’re drowning and will never be able to see the light … but it’s not true, there is always hope. You are a wonderful person who is admired, worthy, missed, and very loved. I hope and pray that you see these messages and that they bring you comfort and courage. And just like you helped me, know that you are wanted and important, so please come and be seen.
    Tammah Sanders”

    “Dear Brent,

    We didn’t really know each other well at Houghton, but I gratefully experienced your generosity and compassion. I’d often go to the chapel basement at night while you and others sang and played music, and journal for awhile. More than a decade has passed, with so many changes in between, and yet I can vividly recall how much I looked up to you.

    Brent, I’ve been in really dark places that felt unbearably heavy; I know each of us has our own constellation of sorrows and traumas that bring us to these places. I can’t speak to the specificity of what’s weighing your heart and causing you so much pain. But what I can speak to? Oh, Brent, I can speak to how much you’re loved. And how much your friends are holding your hope for you, and casting that hope outward, to find you, first, and then to make a home with you.

    I see that here, in these words tendered with love by Jer and so many others. You’re deeply loved. And what’s heavy and dark can be held, and shared, by the people who love you.

    And even though we didn’t know each other well in college, I care very much about you and am holding you in my heart constantly. Your community is your cradle; we promise to always be here, to always have you in our hearts and to show that in very tangible ways, in whatever ways you need. Please come back to us.

    With love,

    We met for the first time in a college basement more than 15 years ago. Your passion was real. The kindness & care that you showed to your friends was genuine. Your laughter & love was an infectious light in the dark.
    And, later, you gave a voice to help create a positive impact in an education system that has such a wide gap. It offered courage & hope to speak truth as an educator to all people. Please, please continue to shine your bright light…
    ~ Ruthie B”

    “Jer, sending so much love and hope for peace in this heartbreaking situation with your loved one, Brent. 💕

    Brent, if you are out there, I don’t know you, and I feel sure you have reasons. Please hear that there is no shame or judgment in this situation. Only love and hope. I imagine returning may feel difficult, so my wish for you is the strength to lean into the love and belonging you have cultivated. 💕” – Laura

    I don’t know if you remember me, but about 10 years ago, you housed a group of us from Mercyseat, when we made the trip to Kansas city.
    You were so kind, made some of the most delicious food, and provided a large mirror for us girls to take back to where we stayed because we didnt have one. (We were so grateful!!)
    Know you are loved and cared for and that no circumstance is too big or too hard to get through–especially with the awesome support system you have in these friends who have written this blog.
    Praying for you.” – Kelly Spencer

    “Brent, we’ve been through a lot of years together, and a lot of ups and downs. You have been an integral part of my life and it’s hard to imagine a world with you gone. I love you so much. I’m with you. I will always be on your side. I want to see you again. I want you to meet my daughter who will be born in October. Please Brent. Please.” – Topher

    “Dear Brent,

    It’s hard to distill what I want to say to a message that I can leave here. I am so, so heartbroken. But like many others, I am holding hope. I hold hope for you – knowing that you may feel it is too distant and fragile a thing to recall- and I hold hope for the world- knowing that while its brokenness leads to the darkest of times, there is a surpassing and enduring beauty and light and life.

    Do you remember how you once told me you were extending a bridge to me? I’m extending it back to you so that you may know you can always come home and find connection, friendship, family. Beth said she’ll find Howard’s End for you. It will be a beautiful and safe place, covered with roses and ivy.

    Only connect…

    Love from,

    “Brent, I recently saw your brother’s post and now Jer’s. You are deeply loved by many and we pray you are okay. We had a lot of fun working together in the Campus Store. Please let Jer or Brian know how you are and where you are. They love you and are very worried about you. You have a lot to give to so many people. Please come back.” – Jane Buteyn

    “Brent, I never really knew you well, but I always appreciated what you offered to the student body at Houghton. You were so talented and seemed like such a good friend. I know that some of my dear friends – like Jer, Alicia, and Shannon – absolutely love you to death, which makes me feel like I missed out not knowing you that well and I wish I could have had the opportunity to know you better. I confidently know that you are deeply loved and I hope you are still around and realize how much better this world is because you are in it.” – Ryan Musser

    “I listened to your voice on a CD which you sent Psalms 63 labelled to mom Your voice was such a blessing to hear. My boxes unpacked quickly with your fantastic talented voice resonating in my new place. My muscles feel like they will be 100 yrs old tomorrow but your voice such a blessing . You are sealed with his promise. You are loved with an Everlasting love. Keep singing keep writing music. If you are reading this know that I love you yes we love by actions so call. kindness is a gift you have_ one of many gifts. The world cannot lose your light. Do what you love. If it is traveling and being off the grid know I think of you each sunrise and sunset and want to visit wherever you are. I love you or you stop and share the real voice yours love mom” – Bonnie Jean

    “I have waited and believe suicide is an eternal solution to a temporary problem whether financial or spiritual. I too know life happens and he shared the rejection from family, last we spoke,which he and I shared , your words moved me to tears. I have been praying hoping he will reach back out to me, Jer, please call 480 619 8338. Brent my door is open, and many love you. My door is always open to you no questions just come and stay Love mom underneath are his Everlasting arms of love. Call me wherever you are.” – Bonnie Crawford

    “Dearest Brenton,

    I have been thinking of you and praying for you constantly. Wow, time has gotten away from us and for that I am so sorry. You are one of the most beautiful, creative, wonderful people I have ever had the privilege of knowing. Brent, you are loved and you are wanted. From the moment we met (you were wearing a light blue tshirt and you told me you were from Canton!), it was kismet and we were instant friends. The closest. Inseparable for a long time. Thank you for being a wonderful person. A wonderful friend. For sharing so many amazing moments-the beautiful, the crazy fun, the heartbreaking sorrow-filled, the just being present ones. From cooking and baking and eating delicious food, to shopping, to traveling, to singing, to watching movies, to talking for hours, to praying and worshipping, all of the memories are so precious and so meaningful. And moving forward, seeing your passion for your students, for education and free thinking, for justice…I miss that. I miss reading your beautiful words and being so proud that you are my friend. I miss seeing your amazing travel photos and being jealous of all of your adventures. I miss you. I hope you’re okay. I hope you’re secretly checking these things while you’re on a secret adventure, reinventing your life. Boy, are you loved and missed an awful lot.

    Love you always & forever. Our hearts are broken without you.
    ~Jen ❤” – Jen Neroni-Trupo

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